When God gave me a new best friend

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I can say without a shadow of a doubt that Mom was my best friend.  We didn’t have much of a relationship when I was growing up. She was battling her own issues and I was a pretty laid back whatever happens is fine as long as there isn’t drama type kid.  Any issues we did have were pretty minor so as we got older we grew closer and then we became spiritual sisters in April 1999.

She was my mom – I went to her for any and all types of advise.

She was my own personal cheerleader – encouraging me and telling me that with God in my life I could do anything.

She was my counselor – when I felt like jumping off a cliff because I was a sucky mom and I had no idea how to raise two hyperactive toddlers – she was the one to bring calm and peace and patience and sense into it all.

She was my sister in Christ – we shared scriptures and songs and often talked about how God was working in our life. At least weekly, if not more often, we’d share prayer requests for family members, friends and just about anything.

On June 9th, 2012, God took my best friend.

No one will ever fill the void of not having her in my life.

But on September 9th, 2012, God gave me a new best friend.

My sister Danelle got her 5th DUI on the morning of September 9th. She had gotten her 4th DUI a few weeks prior and as the 3-month anniversary of Mom and Dad passing faced her, she told herself she could have just one drink. One turned in to two which turned in to alot, and when she woke up on the morning of the 9th she  knew that she would fail her breathalyzer.  Whether it was a cry for help, or just not thinking, she drove herself to take her breathalyzer – thus getting her 5th DUI.

I remember when I got the call that she had gotten another DUI. Pat, the kids and I were in a gas station getting ice cream cones. I was so overwhelmed with grief. I felt like I had not only lost my parents, but that I had now lost my sister. She would surely get 5-10 years in the State Prison.

I don’t remember if it was after the 4th or 5th DUI, but going through it all, Danelle surrendered to the Lord. And I knew that she was sincere and that she had truly had a heart change. I knew this because she started to talk like my mom.

She would talk about how God was working in her life. She would talk about different scriptures or Christian music. She talked about Jesus all the time.

To be honest at first I was scared to believe that my sister was truly healed. There had been alot of pain in the years past. Alot of hoping and praying. Alot of promises not kept and fears of what would happen if.

But within a short amount of time, I knew that Jesus had touched my sister. She was a new person, totally and completely surrendered to Him.

She didn’t get 5-10 years in the State Prison.  One of the many miracles that God performed for her.  There is no explanation. Except that God had work for her to do outside of those prison walls.  She did get 60 days in prison. And she was also accepted into the DUI Court program, which is currently only offered in her county and one other county in the state. {Coincidence? Ha! We don’t think so!}

The DUI Court program is a new program (thus why it’s only offered in two counties in the state – but it will be expanded to more counties!) that offers DUI offenders a different option to find healing. Instead of spending 5-10 years in prison, they do get some prison time and then they spend one year in an intense program of counseling and monitoring.  Danelle is now half way through Phase Two. Which basically means she’s a rock star! (And serves an awesome God!)

Today she called to tell me that on Thursday July 11th there will be a celebration for her at DUI Court (she meets weekly with the DUI Court team to evaluate how she’s doing).  She will be 300+ days sober and so they have a celebration and family is invited. We were planning to go up to see her anyway because July 10th is her birthday. So we are excited to stay an extra day and celebrate her 300+ days sober.

As she was telling me this I started bawling. Not only because I’ve been off my antidepressants for a while (long awesome story that I’ll share later) and I cry at anything and everything, but also because as we were talking about her three upcoming dates to celebrate…

July 9th:
10 months sober

July 10th:
her first birthday sober
(ok obviously she was sober when she was little, but she started drinking pretty early so it’s been a long time)

July 11th:
party at DUI Court for 300+ days sober

…the Lord whispered to me…

Yes my child, in My perfect timing I took your best friend. But I also gave you a new one.

Isaiah 61:1-7

God sent me to announce the year of his grace
A celebration of God’s destruction of our enemies
And to comfort all who mourn
To care for the needs of all who mourn in Zion,
Give them bouquets of roses instead of ashes

Messages of joy instead of news of doom,
A praising heart instead of a languid spirit.

Rename them “Oaks of Righteousness”
Planted by God to display his glory.
They’ll rebuild the old ruins,
Raise a new city out of the wreckage.
They’ll start over on the ruined cities,
Take the rubble left behind and make it new.



2 thoughts on “When God gave me a new best friend

    Chris said:
    June 28, 2013 at 9:33 am

    Oh, and once again, glory!

    Danelle said:
    June 28, 2013 at 5:31 pm

    Hi sister. Thank you for honoring me, and the Almighty, in your latest blog. What a long hard road this journey thru life has been. And I thank the Lord for every second of it. For had I not been there, I would not be here. I am still amazed and grateful every single day for the miracle the Lord has bestowed on me, for I am so unworthy. The 3 things I am most grateful to Him for is: 1) that I have the most amazing siblings who stood by me at a time when you were mourning mom and dad. To be experiencing such personal pain and yet support me is a miracle in itself. 2) that the Lord shared with me the Grace of mom and dads death – not only did mom and dad do the Lords work when they were alive, but in their death the Lord used them to save me. 3) that He listened to my millions of cried pleas to take my disease away from me. Everyday I listen and pray that I may know Gods will for me. I do know that part of it is to be the sister and aunt that my family needs and I am soooo happy God has allowed me to do that. I love you so much sister. Thank you for your love and your never ending prayers.

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